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My Danish habits that foreigners just don't get

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My Danish habits that foreigners just don't get
Their love of bikes and the Danish flag make the list, but what else? Photo: Colourbox
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Do you find the Danes a bit weird? The Local's Nick Bojesen Jensen, who has just returned to Denmark after years abroad, lists ten Danish traits that leave his foreign friends bemused.
1. Getting straight to business with minimal pleasantries
When can we stop talking? Photo: Colourbox
When can we stop talking? Photo: Colourbox
 
Let’s kick this list off without further ado. Most working Danes have two personas. The first is activated from roughly 9am-5pm, during which time we are something reminiscent of Terminators with the ‘kill’ function disabled: expressionless, impersonal, and determined to avoid small talk while we dedicate ourselves entirely to the successful completion of whatever we’re working on. At 5pm however, we switch off and become human again. Understandably, non-Danes find it difficult to develop friendships with their Danish colleagues, who often appear uncomfortable spending more than a couple minutes at a time on chit chat. It’s not that we don’t like you. In fact, we may even want to get to know you better – just not during working hours. 
 
2. Queuing everywhere
Get in line, pal. Photo: Colourbox
Get in line, pal. Photo: Colourbox
 
Many a time did I walk past a line of people in London and nod with approval; Brits are one of the few peoples in the world whom we consider fellow masters at queuing. Considered one of the bedrocks of civilisation among Danes, queuing is what separates us from the animals. We form lines with military precision and invidiously guard our spots in them against all threats, even toddlers. Woe unto the uninitiated foreigner who does the unthinkable and cuts the queue – we won’t actually say anything to the offender, but you can be certain that we’ll vent about it to everyone we know for weeks afterwards. The only time that it’s not necessary to queue is at train and bus stations, where everyone tries to force their way in without actually making physical contact with anyone.
 
3. Making light of serious stuff
North Korean labour camps are hilarious, right? Photo: KCNA/Scanpix
North Korean labour camps are hilarious, right? Photo: KCNA/Scanpix
 
Back in university, I was chatting with a Swedish friend over drinks about where we could spend our internship semester. She mentioned that it could be interesting to do an internship at a UN agency in North Korea. I remarked, deadpan, that they probably didn’t need any more free labour over there. 
 
A lot of things that a typical Dane tries to joke about also happen to be things that probably shouldn’t be joked about. We can be as subtle as the Germans and as sarcastic as the Brits, but we also have a dark side to our humour that revolves around challenging political correctness and provoking what can be called a ‘guilty laugh’, often forgetting that a lot of foreigners find it horribly offensive. “Well, yes. That’s the whole point,” we say. Awkward silence ensues. Or flag burning
 
4. Bicycling everywhere
Dude on pink bike: cool. Helmet: not cool. Photo: Nicolai Perjesi/VisitDenmark
Dude on pink bike: cool. Helmet: not cool. Photo: Nicolai Perjesi/VisitDenmark
 
“I want to ride my bicycle; I want to ride it where I like.” Freddie Mercury agreed with us - bicycling is awesome. We learn to bike at a very early age and it simply grows on us as our preferred mode of transportation, hopping on our two-wheeled steeds even if there’s a snowstorm outside, and happily thumbing our bells on those rare days when the weather’s pleasant. And no, we don’t wear helmets either; it’s so uncool, and more importantly it messes up our hair. Every Dane owns a bicycle, has had at least two stolen, and will confess after a few drinks that they’ve also stolen a couple themselves.
 
5. Not mincing words
Danish conversations might take all kinds of unexpected turns. Photo: Robin Skjoldborg/VisitDenmark
Danish conversations might take all kinds of unexpected turns. Photo: Robin Skjoldborg/VisitDenmark
 
Danish has a tenth of the vocabulary of English, which is probably because we don’t really see a need for having more than one way to say something. We call ‘em like we see ‘em, and have a no-holds-barred approach to touchy topics like sex, politics, money, religion and culture, often not realising that the non-Dane who we’re sharing these opinions with is internally recoiling in horror at the turn the conversation has taken. It’s even worse for many of us when we’re speaking English, as our more limited vocabulary forces us to be even more crude and direct. That said, there are some topics that even we consider off-limits: talking about our feelings, for instance, is a Dane’s least favourite pastime. Unless it’s angry feelings, like how outraged they were when their bicycle got stolen, or when some foreign guy skipped the queue in Netto. 
 
 
6. Leaving the baby alone in the carriage
Ah, she'll be fine out there. Photo: Colourbox
Ah, she'll be fine out there. Photo: Colourbox
 
Of course we’re more worried about where we park our bicycles than our babies when we’re out shopping. I mean, have you seen how much a decent bike costs in Denmark? And yes, we put our babies outside to sleep in their carriages year-round. That way we build up an immunity to that crappy weather you all complain so much about it. 
 
7. Refusing to take sole credit for anything
Even with a personal feat like a marathon, we can find a way to deflect full credit. Photo: Nikolai Linares/Scanpix
Even with a personal feat like a marathon, we can find a way to deflect full credit. Photo: Nikolai Linares/Scanpix
 
A Dane will try to pass off everything they’ve ever accomplished in life as a team effort, and short of subjecting us to waterboarding, you’ll never get us to confess to being anything more than ‘not too bad’ at our job or favourite pastime. We’re afflicted by a cultural phenomenon called Janteloven (The Law of Jante), the basic principle being that the individual is inferior to the collective. We’ll mention the results of our work if asked – a gold medal, a big sale, or completing a marathon – but insist that it was only possible with the help of others. If there’s no getting around the fact that we did it entirely on our own, then we pass the credit on to dumb luck and favourable circumstances.  
 
 
8. Eating a lot of pork 
Pork, pork and more pork. Photo: Colourbox
Pork, pork and more pork. Photo: Colourbox
 
You’ve probably heard that we have a lot of pigs in Denmark (roughly 2.5 per person), so it shouldn’t be surprising to learn that we routinely rank as having the highest per capita consumption of pork in the world, even beating the Americans. In typical Danish cuisine, nearly all vegetables besides potatoes are regarded as colourful decoration to place around the meat, although there has been a trend over the past few years to get us to start eating a little healthier. However, a ‘proper’ Dane is still someone who eats loads of liver-paté, ham, bacon, salami, pork chops, meatballs, sausage, and other varieties of pork on a daily basis. Strangely, I’ve been allowed to retain my citizenship despite turning vegetarian a year ago.  
 
9. Refusing to be indebted to you
Buy you a drink? Only if I can buy you one in return. Photo: Michael Damsgaard/Visit Aalborg
Buy you a drink? Only if I can buy you one in return. Photo: Michael Damsgaard/Visit Aalborg
 
If you buy me a drink for 39.50 kroner, I’ll buy you one back for 39.50 kroner. If you hold the door for me, I’ll hold the next one for you. We simply can’t stand being indebted to others. We’ll go to silly lengths to ensure that we don’t land in that situation in the first place, which is why we generally buy our own drinks and/or pay our share of the tab. We just want to keep relationships as equitable as possible. If you really want to make a Dane miserable, buy them a drink and then call it a night before they have the chance to get even. He or she will find a way in the not-too-distant future to repay you, though. We always find a way. 
 
10. Flags. Everywhere. All the time. 
A birthday without flags everywhere you look? Forget it! Photo: Colourbox
A birthday without flags everywhere you look? Forget it! Photo: Colourbox
 
Birthday cakes, Christmas trees, presents, buildings, window panes, gardens, shelves, shops, and even painted on our faces; there are very few things or places in Denmark that in our opinion wouldn’t look a little more festive with a giant Dannebrog flag (or lots of little ones) on it. I honestly have no idea why we do it, but what’s the harm? We just really dig our flag. 
 
Do you agree with the author? What other traits would you include? Let us know in the comments below.
 
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